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How to Be a Wedding Guest on a Budget

Posted By timparker On 12/06/2011 @ 2:03 pm In Personal Finance | 3 Comments

There are some expenses in our lives that sneak up on us. We don’t budget or plan for them because they come around so infrequently that it’s hard to make plans. Weddings are one of those expenses. Your wedding is a special day and because of that, bigger yet still responsible spending is warranted but that’s your wedding. What about when you attend other people’s weddings?

The expenses of attending or being a part of a friend or family member’s wedding can add up fast. If you’re one of the social butterflies of the world, those numbers could represent a sizable piece of your yearly income. How do you get these costs under control without being rude or giving the impression that you don’t care?

Prioritize

Sometimes there is no way to get around the expense. You have a college friend in Atlanta and a family member in Texas getting married this year and that means that you have to fly to both. Assuming that it isn’t an immediate family member and both share an equally fond spot in your heart, one thing to consider (privately, of course) is which would make a better vacation spot? Is it possible to make the wedding in to your yearly vacation? Is either location within reasonable driving distance to a vacation spot?

If that isn’t the case, it’s not unreasonable nor is it a sign of being cheap if you forego the high priced wedding gift. Maybe a small gift card and if you’re close to the person tell them that you wanted to do more but the airfare was expensive. If you don’t have the means to travel to both weddings you may have to decline one.

Get Help

So you are the person who has to plan the bridal shower? Seems like a financial non-issue but if that shower is 30 people or more, food, invitations, postage, decorations, and gifts are going to add up to money you may not have especially if you have to buy the bridesmaid’s dress too. Wedding etiquette experts say that it’s not only appropriate but also customary to ask the bridal party to take some of burden of the event.

Bachelor/Bachelorette Party

Managing expectations is sometimes difficult when it comes to the bachelor or bachelorette party. Some bridal parties expect a multi day Vegas trip while others would be happy to have a spa day or a night out on the local town.

Some ways to save, besides saying no to Vegas, plan it on a weeknight when venue and limo rentals are cheaper, have a cash bar if the party is large, and make sure you know what everybody does for a living. There may be opportunities to get free or low cost services for the party from those people.

Most important, don’t forget that a night of indulgence may make some people uncomfortable. A classy lunch, dinner, or spa day is a universal event that allows everybody to leave with happy memories in addition to being the low cost route.

When you got married, your event wasn’t as important to your guests as it was to you and reasonable friends and family members wouldn’t expect you to spend large sums of money to make their day special. It’s completely reasonable to set financial boundaries because if they care about you, they’re far more interested in your presence (or maybe presents) than your money.


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